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Charisma editor Lee Grady takes a conservative & cautious look at the Lakeland, Florida Revival.
On May 14, 2008 Charisma’s editor stated “honest questions” & concerns below. Thereafter I give my thoughts and admonition to Grady and Charisma.
Grady: “. . . But as the noise from Lakeland grows louder and its influence spreads, I’m issuing some words of warning. . . “
Davis: “What you call ‘noise’ Lee is the roar of the young lions breaking forth in the earth with the zeal of the Lord. They may not speak, dress, act, or maneuver according to the clever dictates of professional men within Christendom, but they possess faith that works by love which casts out fear and throws caution to the wind. “
Grady: “‘Beware of strange fire. The name of Jesus is being lifted up in the Lakeland revival, and three people came to the altar for salvation the night I attended. Larger numbers have come to the front of the auditorium to find Christ every night since then. “
Davis: “If the name of Jesus is being lifted up in Lakeland, we need not worry. If man’s name is being lifted up, let us beware. The two services I attended in Lakeland, Todd was careful to exalt & uplift Jesus. Should his heart, manner of ministry & focus change the glory will leave. God doesn’t share His anointing with carnal & vain men. When God’s glory leaves, the people will as well. As long as both are present, let us rejoice in the risen Christ. “
Grady: “Yet I fear another message is also being preached subtly in Lakeland-a message that cult-watchers would describe as a spiritual counterfeit. Bentley is one of several charismatic ministers who have emphasized angels in the last several years. “
Davis: “Cult-watchers should not be our concern, as they are not discerning themselves. True discernment begins with awakening to that which is good (Hebrews 5:14), not merely hunting that which is evil (see Romans 16:19). When we are enamored with evil, we ourselves become evil. We become what we behold (see 2Corinthians 3:18). Ultimately we attract & attend to what we ourselves are, as our perception leads to our personal detection & projection. “
Davis: “What a man or minister did several years ago, need not have any bearing upon what they believe or do today. Shall we ask what you did several years ago? A person’s past does not have to dictate their future. As for angelic visitations, these are common throughout Scripture. We should seek God, not angels. Yet should the Lord choose to send an angel to answer our prayers, we should not limit the holy one of Israel. “
Grady: “. . . Paul was adamant that preoccupation with angels can lead to serious deception. “
Davis: “Agreed, heard, understood & acknowledged. “
Grady: “We have no business teaching God’s people to commune with angels or to seek revelations from them. . . . We need to remember that Mormonism was born out of one man’s encounter with a dark angel who claimed to speak for God. “
Grady: “Beware of bizarre manifestations. . . . where do we draw the line between legitimate experience and fanatical excess?”
Davis: “Christ never called ‘we’ His disciples to ‘draw lines’ but to love and lift people. Jesus said let the wheat and tares grow together. The Lord Himself can remove the weeds and pluck up that which He has not planted” (see Matthew 13:30; 15:13). To my knowledge Bentley isn’t teaching ‘God’s people to commune with angels, ‘ neither to seek them. “
Grady: “. . . Paul called for discipline and order . . . In other words, Paul was saying that no one under the influence of the Holy Spirit should act out of control. “
Davis: “The apostle Paul said ‘let all things be done decently and in order’ (1Corinthians 14:40). Before trying to harness, discipline, and order a move of God; first let it flow and ‘be done’ before endeavoring to structure and order it. Grady and Charisma can write about revival, but until they can birth and do revival they should not criticize, nor seek to contain it. “
Davis: “People under the influence of the Holy Spirit respond in innumerable fashions. Since where the Holy Spirit there is liberty (2Corinthians 3:17), people can respond to God freely and don’t need Grady’s permission to do so. “
Grady: “In many recent charismatic revivals, ministers have allowed people to behave like epileptics on stage. . . such behavior feeds carnality and grieves the Spirit. “
Davis: “What feeds carnality and grieves the Spirit is the arrogance of men like Grady who fight a move of the Spirit rather than supporting and birthing one. Casting out demons and healing the sick is not always pretty to the professional eye. “
Grady: “. . . emotional euphoria doesn’t guarantee a heart change. . . . When we put bizarre behavior on the platform we imply that it is normative. “
Davis: “Being a Christian critic and unbelieving believer doesn’t produce a heart change either. A heart of unbelief breeds evil and causes people to depart from the living God (see Hebrews 3:12). “
Grady: “Beware of hype and exaggeration. “
Davis: “Beware of embracing an evil heart of unbelief and becoming a Pharisee who knows the Scripture, but not the power of God” (Matthew 22:29).
Grady: “The church is in a backslidden state and our nation has rebelled against God. “
Davis: “Perhaps you and Charisma magazine are as well. Yet if you will rend your hearts and go hard after God with humble desperation, the Lord of life will revive you with the power of the resurrection. “
Grady: “In our longing for a holy visitation, however, we must be careful not to call the first faint breeze of the Spirit a full-fledged revival. If we do that, we are setting people up for disappointment. . . . “
Davis: “Instead of trying to label and name a revival, call out for it in prayer in your own life. I find no disappointment in revival, only in those who try to deny and restrict it. “
Grady: “Some of the language used during the Lakeland Revival has created an almost sideshow atmosphere. People are invited to “Come and get some. ” Miracles are supposedly “popping like popcorn. ” Organizers tout it as the greatest revival in history. “
Davis: “According to your faith, be it unto you (Matthew 9:29). Better to go to God’s show than Hollywood’s. Better to get ‘some’ of God’s glory than dead religion. If Charisma and Grady don’t like ‘some’ than let them change the name of their magazine to Jesus instead of promoting their ‘some’ and new ‘someone’ on the cover every month. “
Grady: “Let’s stay humble and broken before the Lord . . . . miracles and crowds alone don’t guarantee a revival. . . . It was the few disciples who followed Jesus after Calvary who ushered in a true revival-one that was bathed in the fear of God, confirmed by signs and wonders, tempered by persecution and evidenced by thousands of conversions, new churches and the transformation of society. We should expect nothing less. “
Davis: “Thanks for providing the persecution Lee. We’re almost there! Now, please teach us humility and brokenness. Perhaps you can match the commitment of Mormons to go overseas for 2 years to birth a true revival of your own. Until you can win as many souls, birth as many churches, and transform societies be quick to hear and slow to speak. As Jesus said the fruit speaks for itself (see Matthew 7:20). I pray we all keep our hearts and eyes on Jesus. Beware of trying to steady the ark or seeking to straighten the flow of God’s Spirit lest you be swiftly judged (1Samuel 6:6-7; Micah 2:7). If this revival is of men, it will cease and be brought to not (Acts 5:38). If however it is of God, it shall continue unhindered full force with signs and wonders as God confirms His holy Word with power (see Mark 16:20; Hebrews 2:4).
Paul F. Davis an international minister & author of “God vs. Religion”; “Supernatural Fire”; & “Waves of God”
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Paul F. Davis is a worldwide minister who moves in the miraculous to touch and transform humanity.
Paul has a unique ability to hear the voice of God, naturally bring forth the supernatural in a playful and heartfelt fashion, unlock and simply explain divine mysteries, impart life changing revelation, and usher in powerful manifestation bringing heaven to earth.
Among Paul’s other books are: United States of Arrogance; Poems that Propel the Planet; Breakthrough for a Broken Heart; Adultery 101; Are You Ready for True Love; Stop Lusting & Start Living; A New Earth – Christian alternative to Oprah’s; and many more!
Paul’s compassion for people & passion to travel has taken him to over 50 countries of the world where he has had a tremendous impact. Paul’s Dream-Maker Ministries builds dreams, transcends limitations, & reconciles nations.
The word ‘begin’ is explained as follows in The Positive Dictionary:
Begin: Begin a task with enthusiasm.
* The beginning is the starting point for success.
In our lives we continually have new beginnings. For a newborn baby it is the beginning of learning and experiencing life. Every stage in the growing and developing of the baby is a new beginning: laughing, crawling, walking, running, becoming a toddler, becoming a kid, going to school. Every grade in school, every further stage in life, studies, work, marriage, parenthood are all new beginnings. Even retirement is the beginning of new experiences.
To begin is refreshing and renewing. To start the journey to a holiday destination is filled with excitement and looking forward to a time of relaxation and enjoyment. Every birthday is both a milestone and the beginning of a new life year. Every day is a new beginning with opportunities for success.
Success is the extent to which we attain our goals. Setting a goal is the beginning of the journey. Planning is the drafting of a road map for the journey. Every phase in the plan will be a new beginning. Every task to be done will be the beginning of a part of the plan. Every accomplishment on the journey will be the beginning for the next step. On the journey there will be obstacles and unforeseen setbacks. Every challenge which has been overcome will be the beginning of the rest of the journey
The extent to which we will reach the final destination, our goal, depends on how we begin our journey, and each part of the journey, towards that goal. For every beginning we need vision, enthusiasm, energy and focus. To continue and to attain the goal we need resilience and dedicated effort. Reaching the goal is the end result. It is on the journey that we experience life in all its dimensions.
Beginnings are starting points on our journeys through life. They refresh and rejuvenate body, mind and spirit. But new beginnings are not limited to the important goals in our lives. They are just as important in our everyday lives. Life is experienced in the moment, this second. This is where we have a choice. This is where we can continuously create new beginnings, new things to do, new ways of doing things, new relationships, new enjoyments and new experiences.
Without clear goals we can become stuck in a groove. It has been said that the difference between a groove and a grave is just the depth. The way to avoid a groove is through new beginnings. Why wait for New Year to make New Year’s resolutions? Create continuous new beginnings every day with enthusiasm and life will be a continuous renewal.
Phil Minnaar PhD is a management consultant specializing in management information, business intelligence systems and systems thinking. He has a multi-disciplinary PhD in Computer Science and Information systems, applied to Educational Management.
He has a particular interest in the power of positive thinking and recently published his book, The Positive Dictionary. He went through various dictionaries and selected only words with positive meanings or connotations. For each word he wrote a concise explanation in the form of an action or activity which can be practiced to use that word to become more positive in life. Each word is also explained in the form of a deeper thought or a slogan or a motto, which can be followed in life.
The Positive Dictionary is a practical resource for a positive attitude and success in the workplace.
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One of my long time best friends called me the other night with a horrible pain in her heart. She needed someone to talk to. Rumor had it her daughter might be suicidal and she was trapped on a business trip until the next evening. Her husband was home handling the situation, but she wasn’t going to be okay until she could hold her daughter close. She needed to look deep into her daughter’s eyes to get a ‘read’ on what was really going on inside her mind. Until she could really sit down and talk to her daughter, she could at least pick my brain as to what to do. We talked a bit about when we were seventeen, and I tried to commit suicide. Now, all these years later, what could I say to my friend or to her daughter to make it all better?
I grew up in a very dysfunctional home and had no reason to believe that I was loved or had any sort of an emotional support system. That’s not what threw me over the edge although looking back I think it set the stage by insuring a very low self esteem when entering high school. I wanted to die because I was in love with two boys who were best friends and I knew I’d never be able to choose between them. It was more than I could bear. I wanted to escape the pain of dating one and longing for the other. Both were amazing wonderful souls.
I had met one when we were fifteen and we’d fallen instantly into a wonderful relationship. He was my first true love. He was struggling with his mother’s new husband and became very distant and moody. In my insecurity, I assumed he wasn’t interested in me anymore. To test my theory, I scribbled out a heart he’d drawn on his notebook with our names in it. He took it to mean that I was dumping him and seemed at peace with the idea. I was too hurt and insecure to admit that I was just testing him and didn’t really want to break up. He was too hurt and insecure to stop me. Neither of us knew how to speak openly from our hearts. He occasionally asked me out on dates after that. I would think we were about to get back together and then he’d be gone again. He had moved to a nearby town to live with his dad and stepmother. He gave me the telephone number of his best friend to call if I ever needed to reach him.
One night after a year of him dropping in and out of my life and stealing my heart every time, I finally called his friend to find out when he’d be back in town and more importantly, would he ever get back together with me? According to his best friend, the love of my life thought I was a slut even though I was still a virgin and he had no intentions of getting back together with me. However, his best friend was there to pick up the pieces of my broken heart. The best friend was every bit as wonderful and amazing as the first, but in his own unique different ways. We really loved each other. We were sixteen and planning to get married when we turned twenty.
Since they were best friends, my ex would drop in on us to visit and hang out. It was extremely difficult for me to see him during those visits. My head said I should hate him, but my heart still danced a jig every time he walked in the room. My ex and I ended up having a long talk one night. He confessed that he really did say that I was a slut, but that he regretted it and never really felt that way about me. It was just stupid sixteen-year-old boy emotions tied up with our past together He thought I was better off dating his best friend and gave his blessing. It killed me. I was still in love with him and he was telling me to stay with his best friend. His best friend was the sweetest kindest boy I’d ever dated. Neither of us would ever dream of hurting such a beautiful soul. I couldn’t tell either of them that I was in love with both and for months I slowly went insane unable to speak openly with either, terrified they’d both reject me.
Eventually, I snapped and couldn’t bare the pain of wanting one and the guilt of never wanting to hurt the other. I suspect that it’s some kind of a primitive fight or flight mechanism that gets triggered when we become bombarded by negative emotions. When we feel that the situation is hopeless and we have no way of changing the dynamic, then we can’t fight it. So, we need to flee and suicide is the ultimate form of taking flight. It’s really hard during that time to stop and logically realize that emotions are ever changing and as such they don’t have to be fought nor avoided. You just have to wait them out and make positive choices and changes to promote the shift in dynamics that are creating the overwhelming emotions we want to run from. At seventeen, I couldn’t see that.
I also think that if a teenager doesn’t believe that anyone will cry for them when they’re gone, then suicide becomes a very real consideration. Years later when I had two toddlers and my life was a mess, I found myself wanting to escape from life’s pain again. It was completely different that time. I knew that my two children would be heart broken and psychologically screwed up for life if I committed suicide. As a single mom, I was their only sense of security. I was their whole world. I could get depressed enough to want to run away from my problems, but I could never seriously consider suicide like I had in high school. Someone needed me and would be destroyed if I left. Perhaps that’s where the answer to teen suicide lies. Does the teenager believe that someone else’s life will become unbearable if they die?
Almost two years ago, my son came to me in tears and told me that he was suicidal. The idea of life without my child was, more than I could bear. I knew first hand what it feels like to be in so much pain that you just want to die. To imagine my own child feeling that way was worse than anything I’ve ever endured. We talked a long time about the things that had destroyed his will to live. We talked a lot about the ‘feeling’ of being suicidal.
We talked mostly about how it’s bad enough to have someone you love die unexpectedly in a car wreck or from Cancer or something. It’s an entirely different thing to lose them because they chose to leave. I told him to imagine how he would feel if I committed suicide. The pain he felt just imagining it brought him close to tears. He said he couldn’t bear it if I did that to him. I told him with tears in my own eyes that I felt the same way. My daughter joined in and in tears she put aside all of their sibling rivalries and poured out her heart regarding how incredibly painful it would be for her if he ever died. We were very close in those next few weeks as we worked together to make a lot of changes in his world and in his outlook. He’s doing wonderfully now. He is very happy in a new school, with a girlfriend that is the love of his life, and he’s found his old zest for life’s adventures again.
So, I guess my advice is this. . . . Tell her what her death would mean to you. Does she really know in her heart of hearts how much you love her? Don’t assume anything. Yeah, you have to take her in to some kind of a therapist. But, whatever you do, don’t make her feel like some kind of a screwed up nut. And don’t ignore this. Even if she’s just talking about suicide to get attention, find out why. She may be testing the waters, looking to see if anyone would even care.
There’s nothing more depressing than finding out that nobody would care if you dropped dead tomorrow. Find a way to make her see that emotions are temporary and that together you can fix anything that life throws at you. Does she know you’re in her corner? Help her change her life. Find out what it is she’s struggling with and coach her, guide her, help her to create positive changes. Teach her how to overcome the pain rather than to succumb to it.
Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge
About The Author
Skye Thomas began writing books and articles with an everyday practical approach to life in 1999 after twenty years of studying spirituality, metaphysics, astrology, personal growth, motivation, and parenting. After years of high heels and business clothes, she is currently enjoying working from home
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In the late 1970’s and early 80’s a number of writers ganged up on management. They were looking for a scapegoat to blame for the failure of U. S. business to cope with the Japanese commercial invasion. The war cry was to replace managers with leaders. One of the most strident critics of management was the Harvard Business School professor, Abraham Zaleznik. It is time to bring management back from the dead, to take its rightful place alongside leadership as an essential organizational function. To do this we need to expose the writings of management’s detractors to show what nonsense they were writing. Actually, there was nothing wrong with the function of management in the 1970’s, just the way it was practiced. The attack of Zaleznik is especially important to address because the Harvard Business Review is still publishing his original 1977 article (Managers and leaders: Are they different?) in their collection of articles on leadership, thereby creating the impression that his views are still relevant and up to date when they are actually dangerously outdated and harmful.
Zaleznik makes his case against modern management by comparing it with Fredrick Taylor’s scientific management theories. Bearing in mind that Taylor died in 1915, it is astonishing that Zaleznik does not demonstrate why it is legitimate to compare Taylor’s views with the way modern managers operate, so his views are questionable even before we start to examine his arguments.
In a book published in 1989, The Managerial Mystique, Zaleznik says that ”what Taylor proposed through his system of management lies at the core of how modern managers are supposed to think and act. The principle is rationality. The aim is efficiency. ” Most importantly, Zaleznik believed that managers and leaders differ in terms of their personalities. Taking his lead from Taylor, Zaleznik describes managers as being cold efficiency machines who ”adopt impersonal, if not passive, attitudes towards goals. ” Further, ”Managers see themselves as conservators and regulators of an existing order of affairs. ” He tells us that ”managers’ tactics appear flexible: on the one hand they negotiate and bargain; on the other, they use rewards, punishments, and other forms of coercion. ” So, managers are only apparently flexible and they are coercive, even manipulative in Zaleznik’s eyes. In his 1977 article Zaleznik makes exactly the same claim, stating that: ”. . . one often hears subordinates characterize managers as inscrutable, detached and manipulative. ”
Zaleznik would have us believe that, while managers seek activity with people, they ”maintain a low level of emotional involvement in those relationships. ” They also apparently ”lack empathy”. Zaleznik expands on the emotional theme in The Managerial Mystique by telling us that managers ”operate within a narrow range of emotions. This emotional blandness when combined with the preoccupation on process, leads to the impression that managers are inscrutable, detached and even manipulative.
It is not clear what evidence Zaleznik has for these damning charges. He seems to be doing nothing more than extrapolating from Fredrick Taylor’s conception of management without ever asking himself whether management as a function is committed to Taylor’s characterization of it. Starting with Taylor’s worship of machine-like efficiency, Zaleznik has tarred all managers for all time with the same brush.
Zaleznik believes that leaders are creative and interested in substance while managers are only interested in process – how things are done, not what. For Zaleznik, ”leaders, who are more concerned with ideas, relate in more intuitive and empathetic ways. ” No doubt leaders are more interested in ideas than how they get implemented, but there is no basis whatsoever for calling leaders more empathetic than managers.
Fundamentally, there is no real basis for this personality distinction. It is not good enough to say that managers were controlling from the time of Taylor until the Japanese invasion showed them up. Even if this is historically accurate, there is nothing in this alleged fact that commits management to operating today in this manner. The simple way around Zaleznik’s condemnation of management is to define it functionally, in terms of what purpose it serves, not in terms of how it actually achieves its purpose. This leaves the means of managing completely open.
Management versus Leadership
An easy way of defining leadership and management is to say that leaders promote new directions while managers execute existing ones. In addition, it is widely recognized today that leaders can have widely different personalities ranging from quiet, determined and factual to bubbly, erratic but inspiring cheerleader types. The whole movement to differentiate leaders from managers along personality lines has failed miserably and it is time to give it up. The truth is that both leaders and managers can be inspiring, they just have a different focus. An inspiring leader moves us to change direction while an inspiring manager motivates to work harder. Yes, managers promote efficiency, but this doesn’t have to mean Fredrick Taylor’s mechanistic assembly line efficiency. Management is like investment. Effective managers deploy all resources at their disposal where they will get the best return on that investment. In modern organizations, populated by intelligent knowledge workers, this might mean setting up self-managing teams. To get the best return out of such talent, modern managers need to be good coaches, nurturers and developers of people. Of course, they need to measure and monitor performance to know if their deployments of people are paying off, but this does not entail doing so in a cold, mechanical or controlling manner.
In conclusion, management is just as important a function in organizations as leadership and it is time to cast aside the views of writers such as Abraham Zaleznik who argue otherwise. Moreover, the fact that his writing is still endorsed by the Harvard Business School raises questions about their credibility.
See http://www.leadersdirect.com for more information on this and related topics. Mitch McCrimmon has over 30 years experience in executive assessment and coaching. His latest book, Burn! 7 Leadership Myths in Ashes, 2006, challenges conventional thinking on leadership. Warning: you might find it annoying if you are committed to the usual platitudes about leadership.
It usually takes a disaster to bring people together at lightening speed. However unfortunate may these situations be, commonsense takes over and one gets to see the goodness in human beings, irrespective of who they are or where they come from – at least one hopes that commonsense prevail. This collective behaviour could be dictated by religion, politics, terrorism, nationality, culture or death of a famous person. Most people believe in God or a divine power and one should not forget the few who believe in nothing, or so they have us believe. It is almost as if people are just waiting for something to happen so that they can gear into action. Preventive measures are not given the importance that they deserve, which culminate in all kinds of disasters all over the world.
Having a leader, be it the head of a State, family, organization, university or a religious group, has its advantages and disadvantages. A leader who believes in honesty and integrity and who has the ability to implement these principles should have no difficulty in guiding his or her people in the right path, but the opposite will have devastating consequences. We have seen examples of these in politics, religion and families. The recent wars could have been avoided only if the leaders had taken the right steps and informed the people in their own countries. The dictatorial attitude and the self-righteous beliefs did not help the countries they were ‘supposedly’ trying to help. The war in Iraq is a great example of this and sadly the situation is far worse now. Innocent people are still dying even as the rest of the world is talking about the Iraqi invasion that started five years ago. When one learns to behave with restrain or use common sense, situations could be avoided or won over without killing innocent people.
When political leaders project religion in the forefront and recognize fellow beings only as Hindus, Muslims, Jews, Christians or any other religion, it spells disaster. The common bond is forgotten and fanaticism wins over commonsense and intelligence; people behave like robots controlled by a remote evil power, murdering each other because the other does not belong to the same religion or sector. All one needs is a little compassion and understanding to avoid situations that lead to mass murders and destruction of beautiful cities and ancient cultures.
If this is what religion does to human beings, why does one need religion and places of worship? One needs places of worship with the knowledge that each religion should respect each other and accept the principles and limitations of each. People should be allowed to follow the religion of their choice without being persecuted. Unless we overcome this fear of those whose faith is different from our own, we cannot build a free, just, and caring world – we need to do it individually and collectively without waiting for governments to take the lead. One has to believe in oneself and the fellow-beings, to wake up to the situation and allow commonsense to prevail.
© E Menon
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TV Evangelists of today may be in greater danger of damnation than regular church attendees. Some essentially try to guilt-trip Jesus and ask for money to support their extreme greed and materialism.
We hear of the luxurious, very expensive homes of some of the TV Evangelists, and it just doesn’t sound right. Especially, when we hear about one that had an airconditioned doghouse. We are reminded of all the people who don’t have enough food to eat, or a roof over their heads! When poor people consider sending a donation to a TV Evangelist, it would be so much better for them to find a hungry person and buy them some food!
It appears to be common practice for TV Evangelists to ask for donations. They want all the people in their listening audience to send them money. Jesus told us that whatever we do to the least of these, we do to him, and some of the people who send in money donations, can barely afford to eat or buy their medicine. Matt. 25:40. The Evangelists guilt-trip them into sending in donations from their meager resources. I would not want to be standing in the shoes of these TV Evangelists when they stand before the Judge on the Last Day trying to explain. They will spend eternity regretting what they have done!
For the poor, Creator still counts the blessing of their gift. However, for the TV Evangelist who took from the poor to feed the greed of the rich, it is damnation. In Matt. 23:14, Jesus tells us that those who devour the widows houses and make long prayers in pretense, shall receive the greater damnation.
When Jesus was asked which is the greatest Commandment, he replied that it is to love the Lord thy God with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength, and the second is just as important as the first. Love your neighbor as yourself. Matt. 22:37-39. This makes it pretty clear that we will not see many TV Evangelists in the Holy City in residence with Jesus and our heavenly Father. They will receive their just rewards.
We could remember TV Evangelists in our prayers that they would learn to truly love others unconditionally, and thereby help draw others closer to our heavenly Father by being a Light themselves.
Dorothy was taught by Cherokee elder and wisdom keeper, John Red Hat Duke, for over ten years in Keetoowah Cherokee spiritual ways, in Eastern philosophy, and in Judaism. She was raised Christian so she has a good working knowledge of Christianity. She became disillusioned with Christianity so she now follows no religion, but strives to walk the Red Road spiritual path according to Jesus’ teachings.
She received her call from Creator in the fall of ’92, and was then taught by the great prophet Elijah for four years. She was given four assurances by Creator when He called her. She was told that she was anointed by the Holy One of Israel, that she would be protected until this work was done, that Creator would go before her whenever He sent her somewhere, and that she did not have to prove herself to anyone. She is one of Creator’s two prophesied witnesses.
Spiritual teachings of Jesus, Moses, and Elijah are taught in the book Red Hat Speaks by Dorothy K. Daigle. Red Hat Speaks can be ordered from any bookstore, or online from http://www.iuniverse.com for $10.95. Elijah came to restore all things in these End Times.
Perusing your notes.
Practicing your Powerpoint slide transitions.
Listening to the Rocky IV soundtrack in the bathroom down the hall.
All of these are examples of how someone might prepare herself to speak.
Which brings up an interesting, opposite question:
How much time do you spend preparing yourself to listen?
Odds are, not that much.
And this is dangerous. Because listening requires just as much energy, focus and mindfulness as speaking – if not more!
So, today we’re going to explore four practices for preparing yourself to listen.
1. Consult your materials. Gather all your notes, ideas, reports or any other documents relating to the conversation you’re about to have. Take a few minutes to scan them. Look for patterns. Get to know the persona and the situation better. Jot down any specific questions, concerns or issues you’d like to raise during the interaction.
2. Listening reminders. Take a minute to re-read all of your listening reminders. This is a great way to keep your philosophies and practices fresh in your mind. NOTE: if you haven’t already created listening reminders for your office, consider writing a few of the following ideas on sticky notes to keep yourself accountable:
o L-I-S-T-E-N = S-I-L-E-N-T
o 2 ears, 1 mouth
o Attention, acknowledgment, appreciation and affirmation.
o Responses, not answers.
o Listening, not waiting to talk.
o NO Agenda.
o Don’t react; respond.
o Ask; don’t tell.
o Curious, not judgmental.
o You don’t own their problem.
o Listening isn’t a performance.
3. Breeeeeeathe deep. Taking in fresh oxygen will lower your blood pressure and relax your mind, body and spirit. It will also lay a foundation of mindfulness that will enable you to ask the right questions and tap into your intuition during the listening process. A few secrets for breathing exercises include:
o In through your nose, out through your mouth.
o Make your exhale twice as long as your inhale.
o Consider reciting silent mantras to focus your attention.
o Close your eyes and visualize yourself Growing Bigger Ears.
o Relax your body, let go of tensions, especially in your shoulders and neck.
4. Affirmations. This last practice might sound kind of silly, but it’s also the most effective. Write out three lists of affirmations, each of which start with “I will, I choose or I am. ” Be sure to keep them positive and focused on what you want and not what you DON’T want!
See, by reciting these to yourself before the other person comes into the room, you will lay a positive, forward-thinking foundation of listening effectiveness. Here’s a quick list of potential affirmations for your list:
I WILL. . .
o I will listen today.
o I will say what I see.
o I will ask WHAT or HOW.
o I will take organized notes.
o I will think and pause before responding.
o I will listen at least twice as much as I talk.
o I will listen to myself as well as the other person.
o I will listen to ideas that make me uncomfortable.
o I will lead the other person where they want to go.
o I will listen to the silences between people’s words.
o I will acknowledge, appreciate, affirm and give attention to the speaker.
I CHOOSE. . .
o I choose to monopolize the listening.
o I choose to remain emotionally objective.
o I choose to use engaging, generative language.
o I choose to give advice ONLY when asked for it.
o I choose to ask and say the things that want to be said next.
o I choose to be conversationally selfless by giving the other person the stage.
o I choose to show the other person that I trust them to develop their own answers.
o I choose to listen with my words, silences, eyes, arms, hands, fingers, legs, heart, mind and soul.
I AM. . .
o I am a giant question mark.
o I am curious and fascinated.
o I am now fully prepared to listen.
o I am making it a safe place to open up.
o I am prepared to receive the other person.
o I am making space to accept new ideas and thoughts.
o I am giving myself and the other person permission to open up and feel comfortable.
o I am a Listening Midwife who enables the other person to give birth to their thoughts, feelings and emotions.
o I am a still body of water in which the other person can see their reflection, which will lead to breakthroughs of their own making.
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If you remember these four practices for preparing yourself to listen, you’ll be sure to Grow Bigger Ears!
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How much time do you spend preparing yourself to listen?
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While some imagine the best way to feel sexy is by wearing revealing outfits or sexy lingerie, there’s much more to feeling sexy than that. Moreover, feeling sexy accompanies a display of attitude and confidence that is essential. The old saying that some are sexy wearing a flour sack carries an implicit piece of advice. For, it’s not what someone wears, but how they wear it that counts. With that in mind, focus on an often neglected item of clothing, the skirt. It’s been around for centuries, but few know the tricks of feeling sexy wearing it. So, forget about the obvious lure of sexy lingerie long enough to read on and see what the more understated skirt can do for its wearer!
A huge factor in “skirt appeal” is that, like dresses, skirts aren’t worn by men. Unlike jeans, trousers, Bermuda shorts, athletic pants, even shirts and sweaters, they’re unique to the feminine gender. Moreover, though feminine like dresses and thereby interesting to male eyes, they present much more wardrobe versatility. Sharing a great ability to be mixed and matched with other separates like pants, versatility is a hallmark without sacrificing femininity. And though dresses are also uniquely feminine, they are limited, classified as evening wear, work wear, or beach/resort wear. Skirts are different, so readily mixed with other garments that they can easily catapult from one category to another.
Shopping for a skirt is relatively simple, as styles abound. For those with toned bodies or a comfort level that allows them, there are fitted skirts. Whether knitted, stretch cotton, or fine wool, they emphasize the body’s curves from the waist area down, lengths varying from 14″ minis to those falling at or below the knee. The longer the skirt, the more likely it has a slit for movement. An opening of several inches along the side or back can be quite sexy, leg revealed upon bending or sitting with crossed knee. Feeling sexy is not hard to do if the atmosphere and environment are right. Skirts with slits, like minis, aren’t welcome at work, though, and are better worn after hours. However, a conservative fitted skirt that grazes the knee can go to work with a sensible blazer and shoes, later becoming a sexy evening piece. How?
Simply changing to flirtatious shoes, heels with peep toes or straps, that daytime skirt takes on a new look. Exchanging the blazer for a flouncy short jacket and opening one more button on a soft blouse creates a different effect. A spritz of scent, a toss of the hair, and it’s not hard to feel sexy in a fitted skirt. If it is black, especially paired with a white silky top or blouse, the appeal will be amplified.
Not everyone feels good about figure hugging skirts
. Fortunately, there are many current styles that provide wonderful options. Bohemian chic skirts are long and flowing, often with embroidered or crocheted panels enhanced with ribbons or tiny beads. Additionally, colorful silky skirts with patterns and textures alluringly cover figure flaws and generally have no slits. Offering go-anywhere ease of movement, they pair beautifully with boots, solid, or short with peep toes, for effect. Moreover, adding a low-slung belt or sash speaks of relaxed femininity.
Belts, like shoes and patterned stockings, play up a skirt’s performance, and the options, from waist cinching to falling softly below, accommodate many figure types. It’s wise to experiment to see what works best because feeling sexy in a skirt has everything to do with feeling figure confident. It is better to skip a belt if not comfortable. Instead, find a top that fits nicely without tucking in, and the skirt will still look extraordinary topped with a cute short jacket or soft wrap.
Not to be forgotten are classics such as jean and khaki skirts, casual fabrics that nonetheless can be enhanced with the right accessories. A flowing jean skirt with boots can captivate when it reaches the ankles and is accessorized with a pretty blouse with ruffles or lace. Contrasting lacy fabrics with practical denim or khaki is a great trick for feeling sexy. Moreover, the difference between a skirt and pants is that while pants usually leave little to the imagination, a longer skirt invites intrigue about the legs it covers.
Undoubtedly, sexy lingerie will always be fun to wear, but there is a reason skirts have endured. Perhaps it is that they’re not obviously sexy or don’t try so hard, leaving it up to the wearer to feel sexy in them by focusing on attitude and feminine touches. A pair of high heels, a nice leather belt, fishnet stockings, or a softly draped sweater, can team with a skirt to engender feelings more sexy than with lingerie. So, when next looking at that straight black style, or bohemian with ruffles, just imagine the possibilities for mood setting fashion by wearing a skirt!
The “Images of One” is all about creating the lifestyle you have always wanted. The Law of Attraction allows each and everyone of us to tap into the conscious universe and bring to us the essential elements to make our lives more abundant and prosperous.
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“Images of One” is about awakening within us the unconscious connection we all have with the universe and becoming consciously aware of using the Law of Attraction.
If you are not familiar with the Law of Attraction, it is a powerful law in nature that states: “Like attracts like. ” Metaphysical teachings have known about the nature of this law for thousands of years. It has just been within the last few years that science proved this out, also.
Through the studies and experiments in Quantum Physics, we now know that our personal thoughts have a vibrational signature to them. Our thoughts are received by the super conscious universe, which sends back to us what we think about.
We basically are living our lives through the Law of Attraction . If we are to live lives of abundance, prosperity and happiness, then we need to be more consciously aware of what we are sending out.
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Have you been somewhere likes this? Or maybe you know someone who is there at the moment? Your partner just left you? You just lost your job? Your business is going bad? Not enough cash to get you through the week? One of your children is sick? Sound familiar. Why is life full of problems? And why do these things happen to me? And, more importantly how do you keep moving forward when it feels like the whole world is conspiring against you.
Unfortunately life is not perfect. A wise man once said that Life only gives you challenges to the level at which you are able to deal with. One of the most important elements in dealing with the challenges that life throws at you is not to make them bigger than they are. We are all guilty of running the challenge around in our head until it gets so big that we just cannot see a way around it. Get a sheet of paper and properly define the problem. Do not embellish it. Do not make the story bigger than it really is. But, define the problem. In order to get through whatever it is that you are dealing with, you must first know clearly what it is that you are dealing with. Once you have defined the problem, throw away the paper, because it is not the problem that we are interested in, it is the SOLUTION that we are truly interested in. But, in order to get somewhere we must first know where we are starting from.
You are not alone. Get help. Somewhere out there someone has already faced and overcome the problem you are now dealing with. Maybe one of your friends. Or maybe you need to seek professional help. A coach, trainer or mentor can help you overcome the challenge. One of the negative ways we tend to deal with problems is to withdraw, because nobody has it as bad as what we have got it at the moment. Is that what you are thinking? Or I can not ask for help because I should be big enough to deal with this by myself. And I do not want to burden someone else with my problem. Frankly, this is a load of rubbish. Firstly, someone out there has a bigger challenge than the one you are facing right now. Secondly as human beings we like to help our fellow humans in their time of need. So, ask for help. It is there you just have to ask for it.
So, what is the way out? By now, we have defined the problem so we know exactly what the issue is that we are dealing with. Secondly, we have made a list of people, organisations, or resources that can help us with our problem. So now we need to decide what the desired outcome is. Where do we want to go to? And, more importantly why do we want to get there? The way out is then to take ACTION. At this point in time, we have done some writing and some thinking. And, this is where a lot of people get stuck. Take Action. Do Something that will move you closer to where you want to be. NOW!!
Got a big problem or challenge? Great. Let us do something about it. What is your problem? Do not make it bigger than it is, and do not make it smaller than it is. Imagine that it belongs to someone else and help them define it. Once you have it defined, make a list of people and resources that will help you overcome this problem. Remember that help is out there it is just a matter of asking for it. And finally, take ACTION. Move away from where you are and closer to where you want to be.
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